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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My son stole around $50-100 from us when he was 13, so unlike a lot of PPs we actually have experience with this.

The money wasn't a big deal for us, we were (and are) fairly well off, and honestly we would not have noticed had he not confessed to it. Obviously had money been tighter, it probably been worse, but it felt awful anyway to know that our DS had been stealing from us.

We punished him by making him pay us back from the odd jobs he did for us/neighbors (mowing the lawn, washing windows, etc) and not getting lunch money (having to brown bag it to lunch).

It did shake our trust in him, especially my DH's, who to this day doesn't 100% trust him but he has grown up, gone to college, and now teachers High School, and I am incredibly proud of the man he has become. My DH will probably never get over it, but I certainly have, and I view it as him pushing the boundaries and being an asshole (excuse my French).

While we were obviously pissed when he confessed, I don't think spanking, even if he was younger, would have been appropriate. I am not against spanking, but I believe that the punishment should fit the crime. Yes, this is a major breach of trust, but he (like my son) eventually came clean. Again, my DS confessed a few months later, after he thought we might have caught him (we hadn't), but to me, spanking say, "you have done something so bad, without any apology or remorse, that I need to show you that I am willing to hurt the kid that I love dearly to make a point," in both my case and yours, you should tailer the punishment to the fact that they confessed, like having the kid pay you back, and taking away some privilege.[/quote]

Your DH has serious issues if he can't forgive his grown son for something he did at 13.[/quote]

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