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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Spanking is a humiliating and ridiculous practice that will only cause a rift between you and your children. Your child will always remember that moment, especially at age ten, but not in the way you might want him to...[/quote]

You broke the trust between you and your child....by hitting him.[/quote]

[b]+1 what are you goign to do when he gets older and does something worse?[/b][/quote]

If you are spanking a 10 year old child and he works and never does anything bad again, OK.

[b]But I presume you also spanked him when he was 3 and 5 and 7 and 8 and 9, right?   And he STILL hasn't learned to do the right thing.[/b]     So he's going to keep on doing wring things... are you going to keep on spanking him, when he is 13 and 15 and 17??[/quote]

Again, I don't believe in spanking but this is stupid. No matter what discipline method you choose, [b]your kids will not outgrow doing things wrong until they are adults[/b]. Of course he does things wrong growing up -- he is a kid -- [b]whether you use time outs, taking away privileges or whatever[/b], it is a process.[/quote]

That wasn't my experience as a child, nor has it been my experience with my own kids (who are now 9 and 13)  Once we kids (or my own kids) hit school age, we basically did what we were supposed to do.  In fact I don't EVER recall being punished as a school aged child or teenager.  Nor were my other 3 siblings punished.  No time outs, no groundings, nothing.

Once my brother's grades really slipped, and he had to give up a sport until he brought them back up.  But that's not really "punishment" just a natural consequence.

My parents were pretty upfront about the fact that we were part of the family, they expected us to behave as part of the family, [b]and if we had trouble doing so, we talked it out and figured what the problem was.[/b]   We didn't need to be punished; we WANTED to be part of the family and to help out, behave, and do the right thing.  
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Of course you did not always do what you were supposed to. You said so in your post. But your parents' way of dealing with it was extraordinary. I would love this for my kids but -- it would not work.[/quote]

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