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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]7:29 here.  Guys I know in their 40s don't necessarily want20 yr olds, but definitely under 35. I can pass for mid thirties and they are surprised when I tell them my age, one even said he didn't realize I was that old with a frown .[/quote]

I think you are correct but i am trying to figure out why.  I am a very attractive divorced 40 year old with two children.  I am on two online dating sites and am surprised that 40 something divorced dads with children have little interest in dating another 40 year old.  They seem to want younger and honestly i dont understand it.  I have been seeing a 40 year old divorced dad of two children for a few weeks.  I like him but wonder if he will start searching for someone younger who has less baggage.  [/quote]

NP - I'm a divorced dad, early 40s, and equally co-parent with my exW.  I have also used a couple of on-line dating sites and the issue I have found is that a lot depends on the types of filters or search criteria one uses - the profiles that fall within the parameters you use, those same men may not have the parameters in their searches so that you would show up in the search results.  I'm not white and there have been a couple of cases where I've emailed women who never responded yet I actually met ran into them in real life in my neighborhood and we hit off.  While it didn't last, what is funny is that they never thought to adjust the filters to include someone with my ethnic background

I can tell you I much prefer to date a divorced mom (35-45) - as single parents we get the time constraints, the pressures of balancing work/kids/personal life, we've lived and there typically is so much we would have in common which makes it easier to build a connection.  One of the key filters I use is distance - it's just not reasonable to drive 45 minutes+ to meet someone for a date - even though there she may be very attractive and we have (on paper) a lot in common, etc.

Just something to keep in mind - not all guys go after the 20-year olds - and those who do, well they are leaving the best for the rest of us![/quote]

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