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PP, if you are still reading this thread, why do you think your DS was singled out or targeted for "counseling out" as opposed to the other kids whose behavior seemed worse?  If you stated it earlier, I must have missed it so please forgive.[/quote]

I think it was for a few reasons. One, we were a financial aid family. I volunteered a lot for the school, but our family could contribute little in the way of money and power. Two, ds was still in elementary when this happened-- elementary grade kids are easier to replace (and pay less tuition) than upper schoolers. It seemed like the school tried very hard to gain and retain older kids, even if they were badly behaved, academically deficient, or both.

Thirdly, I think it was because of the kinds of behaviors ds was exhibiting. He has since been diagnosed with High Functioning Autism, and the kinds of things he got in trouble for reflect that-- inattentiveness, noises (like humming) in class, touching others but not wanting to be touched in return, getting emotional.... The behaviors weren't usually "bad," (and his grades were great), but they were chronic. I think they didn't know how to "handle" him, and decided that he was a "bad kid." I heard a lot of "He's manipulative," and "He needs a firmer hand" from the staff. That's exactly the wrong advice for a HFA kid, but they (and we) didn't know that at the time.

His current school is much better at valuing his strengths and dealing with his weaknesses, thank goodness![/quote]

I think your child was counseled out appropriately.  It wasn't done because your family receives aid it was because the school can't meet his needs.

Other kids might behave badly but if it's just crappy behavior of a NT kid that is something different than a child with autism.

We are a financial aid family at a private school and we sacrifice a lot to pay our portion of the tuition.  We do it because our public options are bad and quite frankly I expect the school to maintain a student body that they can reasonably serve academically and behavior wise without taking away from my child.

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