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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pp, you must be a MIL whose a bitch to your DIL. [/quote]

Nope, I am a DIL who realizes that when DH and I married, we married into each other's families.  My MIL is part of my family and get's treated as such.  We have our run-ins, but at the end of the day, she IS a family member.  I guess that I was just raised to respect my MIL annd not just tolerate her.  But then again, I am the only girl and I have 5 older brothers.  I saw that MIL/DIL dymanic in full force from an early age.  TBH, blame for the issues was probably 50/50.  My mother was not a saint, but the DIL's did their fair share of bicth things too. [/quote]

Pffffft.  Not really.  If you are not welcomed into his family, they can go to hell, as far as I'm concerned.  They don't need to gang up on someone that just got there, so to speak.  Besides, chances are there a ton of them - couldn't they be the ones to act warm, nonjudgmental, welcoming and normal (probably like your own family did for DH)?  Whatever.  I'm not here to impress my IL's, that's for sure.  If they didn't expect me to be just like them, I would feel differently.   :shock: [/quote]

PP here.  I hear you, but doesn't it go both ways?  A couple of my SIL's were stand-offish and had a chip on their shoulder coming into the family.  I see a lot of that on DCUM.   Women say they want to be "welcomed" into the family, but what they really want is to be "welcomed" on their own terms.  Many DILs are not warm and non-judgmental to the families thay they have chosen to marry into but the MIL gets all the blame.  And the DH gets stuck in the middle.   My MIL and I are not buddy-buddy, but she tries her best and I do to.  We have a decent relationship and have learned to find a middle ground for the sake of DH and the kids.  We realize that we are part of the same family and we give each other that level of tolerance and foregiveness.  But that is just us.

Believe it or not, many of you will become the MIL's that you now despise. [/quote]

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