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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I do think this expectation IS more ratcheted up than when we were kids.  (I grew up in Fairfax County also -- public hs.)  I think the moms who have chosen to stay home take it very seriously and try to do their best at everything, which means that [b]the holiday parties which were a few cookies and some fruit punch when we were young, are now bigger extravaganzas and have grown to require more parental involvement.[/b]  Everything is "too much" and the kids could be happy and learn a lot more if we scrapped a lot of new things, like Dr. Seuss Day (wear a silly hat and bring in your favorite Dr. Seuss book), 100th Day of School (dress up like a 100-year-old), etc.  ENOUGH.  By not participating to run these things or help with these things, I am "voting"/trying to demonstrate that I think they are unnecessary.  I won't be forced to participate in the "more more more".[/quote]

WAY TOO MANY cookies at the holiday parties now. Nobody wants to be thought a deadbeat, so everybody sends in enough cookies for the whole class. 24 kids x 24 cookies = ridiculous excess. I agree in wishing that there were a lot less of this kind of stuff.[/quote]

Yes, and everyone has been on Etsy so their heads are filled with a million cute ideas about tissue paper pom poms ("they're so easy!"), DIY flag banners, and the like.  Kids don't need all this stuff.  You're not a bad mom if you've chosen to stay at home and you are not trying to create an Etsy-style party for every event at school.  Remember all those articles we all read about "kids need some hardship in their life to develop character," "grit is what is most important in kids' future success," etc.  Don't pave the way and make your child's life so easy and luxurious.  They're fine with a few cookies and water bottles -- they won't even know what they're missing.  If this means that you, the mom, then have extra time to fill and you TRULY LIKE making the tissue paper pom poms and the flag banners, do some other craft activity, or rein it in.  Is this REALLY good for your child?  Does he/she need it?  [/quote]

It's funny to me that parents who believe like this (above) think the "contributing parents" are doing the wrong thing.  Not parenting in the right way.  Etc.  Being too excessive with the kids.  Etc.

And the "contributing parents" think the "non-contributing parents" (their words) are "not parenting in the right way."  Not "supporting their child's education," etc.   But I think this side is a little self-aware and is aghast to think that other parents would think that what THEY are doing is wrong.

I think the first side (para 1 above) cares less about what the second side (para 2) thinks of them and shrugs it off and says, "Oh well, I will parent in my own way."  Which enrages the parents in para 2.

LOL.  [/quote]

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