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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is really okay for kids to be disappointed and sad. Normal and appropriate emotions for the situation. Help her learn how to cope with these feelings. Validate how she feels and help her move forward. [/quote]

This was probably the first real disappointment she has ever felt. I understand her disappointment completely.[/quote]

Absolutely - it is what it is. And it is okay for her to be disappointed. You didn't set out to hurt her and don't let your guilt make you do things to buy back her happiness. Circumstances happen. Adversity is what makes us stronger. It will help her deal with future disappointments when she realizes she can still have a great life and be as successful as she wants to be, even if not in the school she wanted.[/quote]

But the thing is, it isn't just about disappointment, it is also about betrayal.  Imagine being a teenager and going through all these steps to get into a private school, and having your parents talk it up and encourage you, and when you finally get in (a BIG deal) your parents say...actually just kidding.  We can't afford it and never really bothered to open the books to see if we could.  Oh well.  Too bad, so sad.  At least there is public.  Major betrayal in the eyes of a teenager. [/quote]

^^Oh, please get over yourself! This teen took a standardized test (one of many she will have to take in her life) and wrote an essay again one of many, visited a school and had a half hour conversation with some people she does not know and will never meet again. Such a tragedy! OP, sometimes things just do not work out financially. many families initially think that they can afford private, but there are many issues. 
One is the 5-7% rise in tuition each year. Another is that if you cannot clearly afford it, you are thinking of taking from retirement funds, college funds and so on. It is never a good thing to live beyond your means. It is sad, but you are not alone. I know it is heartbreaking, but not nearly as heartbreaking as being broke.[/quote]

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