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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, I an pretty smart but have such severe learning disabilities that when you merge the two together I come across as dumb, basically. Send her away to a state school. She will fail out, but will learn a ton about herself and her abilities compared to other kids.

I was much more successful at work than at school. Even with that, I still have a hard time at work and get fired from jobs for being too stupid to understand things sometimes that are a job requirement. Even into my 30's I still sometimes called my parents hysterically crying because I couldn't understand what my boss said to do. She could maybe be a bartender, a receptionist, a bookkeeper, etc. after she fails out of college, tell her she can work, go to school, or do a combo of both but she needs to be productive 40 hours a week. I took five years to get an associates degree from comm college and am an exec asst. [/quote]

I cant tell if you are joking or not.

But if you aren't, don't feel bad, because I still want to cry at work every day because I don't know what the hell my boss is saying. It may not be you, if your boss is like mine, its because what they are saying actually makes very little sense :)
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I'm not joking at all. This is my life. I have never kept a job for two years. 22 months is the longest. I hate my brain. I can't read a map to save my life. I often have to ask for help with basic things but then can't even understand the advice given. But I do support myself. [/quote]

OP here.  Well, because you are much like my daughter, I want to ask: what do you love about yourself? I am sure my daughter gets really frustrated with her brain as well.  But she does not have self esteem problems, she is a hysterically funny girl with the most amazing heart, and her ability to be a friend to others is off the charts. So I hope that you think about that today. Maybe you were posting about your brain specifically, just in response to my post, but you sound a little bit down.  I hope you think today about what you love about yourself and your life.  We all have something--most of us have lots! 
As to your job situation, I personally just hired a guy to work for me.  He told me right up front, look I have really bad ADD, and here are my struggles.  He gave me a whole list of what works for him to keep himself organized, and how he wants to be communicated with, etc.
Have you tried that? Thinking up the things that have made you fail in the past (to the point where you lost your job), and then what would have prevented that? And then thinking up ways to tell future bosses that they need to communicate with you so that you can be successful?
In my experience with this kid I just hired (I say "kid" cuz hes just out of school lol), I was seriously impressed with how he approached me, was up front about it, and had a plan to be successful. And I try really hard to follow what he told me (and when I forget, he reminds me...and that's a good thing!).  
Maybe try something like that? 
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