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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]IF this is real, just because you cheated does not mean you don't have a right to see your kids. Your husband kicked you out - understandably - but he doesn't get a right to bitch when you then choose where you live, even if with OM. He also doesn't get to say he wants an open marriage but try to use affair against you. Frankly, it's not going to be the same as before so I would divorce and go on with life.

Otoh, this could be a fake post by Centurion.[/quote]

You sound like someone who has had an affair, yourself.[/quote]

Never cheated in a relationship so no. Being a bad partner does not equate to being a bad parent unless one is physically hurting the other.[/quote]

Actually they are quite related. Cheating when you have kids means you are willing ot take the risk of breaking apart your marriage. It means youa re willing to risk your childnren;s stability. It means you are willing to risk betraying and devastating and potentially traumatizing their other parent or at least making them an emotional wreck. Cheating means you are more than willing to risk your children's wellbeing and willing to break up their family. Anyone who cheats knows that it could hurt the kids, it could cause them emotional pain and suffering, that they risk introducing pain and sorrow and conflict into the family. they are willing to risk their own relationship with their kids who may not too forgiving about their parent's action. Cheating is putting your kids last, and not really caring about the risk of bringing emotional harm to them. Not really qualities of a 'good' parent. [/quote]

Does anyone say that to men who cheat?[/quote]

Absolutely. A man cheating isn't thinking any more about his kids well-being than a woman cheating. I know many people whoa re resentful or who struggle with trust or their own relationships related to their parent's infidelity. Others who were angry with the parent who cheated or whose relationship with the parent was impacted by the cheating.

I am sure there are a few people who say mom/dad cheated and our family broke apart due to this but it had no impact on my life, my own relationships or on my relationship with that parent. However far more do say that the infidelity had a negative impact in one or more areas of their lives.[/quote]

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