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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH lost his job over the summer and we decided he'd SAH for a while.  We have 3 kids ages 10-7 and two of them have multiple therapy appointments during the week.  FWIW, one has a communication disorder that signficantly affects his expressive/receptive language and he goes to speech therapy twice a week.

My DH has ADHD and we've learned that if he doesn't have a list of things to do, nothing gets done.  Understandably, it caused problems in our relationship because with one parent home, I was expecting to carry less of the household chore load.  DH wasn't happy either. On a different thread, I saw someone had posted info regarding an Activity Log.  You basically fill out how you spent your time during the day, rated how you felt while doing it and rated your sense of accomplishment.  It's really helped DH see how he spent his time and where he had some black holes (like thinking he was on the Internet for only a few minutes when it was really 2 hours).  That has helped him stay on track.  I also provide him a detailed list of things that need to be done.  It includes basic things like giving kids their meds in the morning and making sure one of the kids sits on the toilet before leaving for school and first thing when he gets home (he has bowel issues) to starting laundry to replacing light bulbs.

I know some might think that it's controlling.  It's not.  DH's strength is not in organization and planning.  That's not a criticism, it's a fact.  I'm good at organization and planning so we each do what we're good at.  I make lists of things that need to be done and he gets them done.  We're both happier with the results because the things that need getting done, get done.  Our home life is a lot smoother now and we have more free time in the evenings and weekends.  [/quote]

PP here who suggested the hourly activity log (with ratings for enjoyment and accomplishment).  I'm SO happy that it's been helpful to someone!  It literally saved my life.[/quote]

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