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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Here is what I know from my years of marriage to my DH.  He attended Catholic schools, as did his parents and grand-parents and he strongly identifies with the Church culturally.  He is of Polish-American heritage, so the Catholicism also plays into his strong sense of Polish - American ethnic identity.  He says he strongly believes in what he sees as the Church's social mission - to educate the ignorant, feed the hungry, clothe the naked, take care of the sick, etc.  He is conflicted about issues like abortion (not birth control though), and can see how there is a human rights argument to be made for  protecting the unborn, as well as the aged and sick when it comes to issues like euthanasia.  As far as the whole marriage equality thing goes, he has friends who are gay, says gay marriage is a civil not a religious matter and that no one - gay or straight - needs to be married in the Church.

I grew up in a basically atheist family and have no religious upbringing or background.  I just don't understand what he would find he needs in the Church.  I am able to get along without God.  [/quote]

He sounds pretty cool to me, OP. Just because you are "able to get along without God" doesn't mean he should have to. And if Catholicism is part of his cultural identity, you must understand why it's wrong to try to withhold that from him. He didn't "turn" Catholic, as you put it. He has always been Catholic.

Surely you don't really begrudge him two hours a week on a Sunday, when he has let you sleep until 9:30. Your anger seems disproportionate to the situation. It might be valuable to honestly and nondefensively examine your own issues, whatever they are, that make you feel so threatened by this.

For the poster who said this is grounds for divorce, and the one who suggested marriage counseling: really? Turn that around, friends. If a man wanted to divorce his wife for going to church, or demanded marriage counseling because she went to church, you'd be the first ones to decry him as controlling and wrong. [/quote]

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