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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]SAHMs:

We know what the value is for a SAHM because there is a market for the replacement of them - nannys.

You can have an experienced live in nanny for $40-50k.  Housekeeper once a week for another $7500 per year.

So SAHM: your value to the household is around $60k MAX.

So please please please stop acting like its the "hardest job in the world" or that the value is some incalculably high number, it just isnt.

and btw folks, just because you are married doesn't mean everything has to be shared 100%.  my wife and I keep separate bank accounts.  we receive our paychecks and then contribute a fixed amount to the joint account.  we retain the rest for use as we see fit.

I make 3:1 so naturally I get to retain a lot more.

We contribute 50/50 to household duties and have a nanny+housekeeper.

[b]this is the modern approach[/b]

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that why the modern day divorce rate is so high[/quote]

you are saying that divorces happen because the woman could be expected to pay for half the expenses?

isn't feminism about equality?

as in EQUAL

I already explained that I assumed greater duties during pregnancy and early childhood to balance things out in terms of labor and lack of sleep etc.  So what other reason could there be?  Other than women are just DUE it?
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I agree this poster is just kind of weird about the whole pregnancy thing. But you're making something a gender thing that's more an income thing. I would be answering this the same way if the higher income earner was the wife, which obviously happens with great frequency, especially around here. That's why your vagina comment makes you an idiot, by the way.

So what other reason could there be? Maybe you actually like your spouse? And maybe you want to be a united family instead of a quasi-business? Maybe some spouses just want to be nice to their spouse and don't see as something that's OWED? Yeah, that might be it. You seem to think there's a literal price of admission into the household, and not in the Dan Savage sort of way.[/quote]

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