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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm going to get flamed for this, but here goes...some of the most misbehaved children I know are diagnosed with ADHD.  [b]Interestingly enough, their parents are the most ineffective, passive and permissive adults.[/b]

I've yet to meet a child with ADHD who's raised in a strict but loving, disciplined household with firm limits, consistent boundaries, a set schedule and a healthy dose of the word n and benign neglect as needed.  We're raising self-centered, entitled brats.

Go ahead, tell me that you are raising your child this way and he/she is gifted, healthy, quirky, etc. but despite your loving interventions...

We've gotten so afraid of blaming Mother or accusing the parents of neglect that experts tend to gloss over or claim the home environment is relevant.[/quote]

You know, a lot of kids with ADHD have PARENTS with ADHD. The ADHD in the parents is frequently undiagnosed and untreated.  The parent have difficulty organizing herself and difficulty organizing her child.  That doesn't mean ADHD isn't real. It means both parents need treatment. Both the parent and the child could benefit from medication in that situation.

http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/9569.html

http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/2539.html[/quote]

[b]I think it's over medicated.  I know kids with ADHD whose parents were diagnosed after their kid was.  Just my experience but the parents went to Harvard, Yale, Cornell and U. of Michigan law schools and did well enough to get federal appellate clerkships:  All without medication or accommodations during their schooling  where they obviously did very well.[/b]
So their ADHD was mild and they learned to compensate for their slow processing and executive functioning skills.  I think for SOME kids with ADHD, people (and schools) are too quick to medicate instead of working on organization and coping skills.  [/quote]

I have 2 boys with ADHD, both combined, one child's is regular middle of the road diagnosis, the other has very severe ADHD.  My dh is an ADHD parent diagnosed after my first child.  He went to a prestigious university and has a very successful career making over 300k a year.  HOWEVER, his ADHD severely affects our marriage and his parenting ability.   Yes, he has learned strategies to cope at work although he always works much longer hours to complete all of his work than most of his coworkers.  Having ADHD can give you the ability to have a narrow focus on certain parts of your life, such as school and work, but that focus cannot be sustained and it is often the home life that it disrupts.

Working on organization and coping skills are very important, but sometimes the brain cannot even begin to process how to do so without medication to begin with.  And I say this as a very "crunchy", organic, anti meds unless absolutely necessary mom.  If you knew my dh at work and how organized he is there, you would never believe the chaos of his things at home.  His stacks and piles and clutter get scattered around the house.  This while trying to keep a structured routine for the ADHD kids at home.   It's a vicious cycle and I wish there was not such a stigma surrounding it.  My in-laws still think this is something my kids will grow out of (after many years of denying there was a problem to begin with and thinking I was paranoid mom) and clearly never thought dh had a problem.

A diagnosis and medication should have been pursued for my dh as a child.  He is working extra hard now to learn the life skills necessary while juggling career and family.  [/quote]

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