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I feel like my only way out is if I get sick and die.  Divorce would devastate our 14, 11 and 8 year old.  They love their father because he shows up and it's good times all around.  But I'm done.  I'm desperately unhappy. But trapped. If I die, then they would be sad, but wouldn't have the specter of their mother leaving their beloved father.  Can't afford therapy right now - paying for the kids therapists and meds is tapping out all discretionary income.  It's just a shitty situation and I truly don't see a way out except pulling myself up and doing things that make me "happy".  Which is not quite what I envisioned for myself.  I could've stayed single for that.

And no, I didn't know DH was ADD before we were married.

FML.  And happy fucking anniversary to us.[/quote]

I have so walked in your shoes.  I must give you an assignment: tell your husband you will be going away for four days.  Tell him don't ask and tell him to take care of the kids.  Don't apologize.  Don't make meals for the freezer.  Don't do extra laundry so they're all set.  Just go with as little notice as seems absolutely necessary.  You HAVE to clear your head and they will survive even if he doesn't feed them.  Go stay with your aunt, sister brother or go stay at a Motel 6 in the poconos.  Just go.  Please.  Your family needs to know you are not a doormat; and they will be better off for it.  When you get back he will be angry but stand tall - you needed it.  With the perspective you gain, you may realize what your next steps should be.[/quote]

Oh please do this PP. Get the hell out for a long weekend and turn off your phone.

This is a sad thread. My DH died a few years ago and I am raising our DS alone. My job is demanding and I often feel tired and burnt out. But other than right after DH's death, I have never felt as down as OP and PP express. I think there truly is no harder type of loneliness than feeling abandoned by the person who should love you most.  [/quote]

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