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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a nanny and my parents bought me a car, house and paid for my education/rent etc.  I love working with kids and having my house paid off lets me have a (low paying) job I love.  Every day I know I'm making a difference and thanks to my parents generosity with the house I can continue working as a nanny.  My parents don't pay for anything else, the house was my send off into the real world.  I'm grateful and I work hard every day with kids I adore.  If you want to call me and entitled diva princess, that's your choice but I am a hard working person who needed a little help.  Now I can live comfortably and keep the job I love.[/quote]

Not necessarily an entitled Diva but you are still living like a child. Many 16 yr olds have jobs and their parents pay for almost everything - that is the situation that you are in. It is strange to me that adults are happy to remain dependent and not grow up and take on adult responsibilities. To me that is a failure on your parent part, that they didn't raise you to be an independent adult. Your maturity is pretty much stunted and you are still still not  able to manage adult responsibility or live independently.[/quote]

+1. Wouldn't say you're a diva since you are working hard. But part of parenting is making kids realize that life requires money and sometimes you have to take certain jobs or forego certain jobs for financial reasons. I'm sure there are many here who would like to be writers living in Paris -- maybe they even majored in English and took steps towards that dream -- but when they realized it wasn't financially feasible, well that's how they became lawyers and doctors and [b]pharma sales reps and insurance underwriters [/b]and those millions of other professions that aren't necessarily anyone's dream or true love.[/quote]

How often do hear children on career day say I want to be a pharmacy sales rep or an insurance underwriter?  It's so true.  There are many jobs out there that are not dream jobs.  [/quote]

+1. I don't think anyone grew up saying I want to be a mortgage broker or a bank manager or an actuary. But then they got older and realized no one was going to buy them a house or a car or pay for their kids' college so they decided the aforementioned were fine ways to make a solid living, as much as they may really have wanted to be a musician or food critic or whatever.[/quote]

But what's wrong with that? Do you think it is better and more honorable to be the mortgage broker who doesn't really like his/her job, than to be the musician that you always wanted to be and that makes you happy and to live in the house that your parents paid for you? Maybe you really do, but I certainly don't. I think that it would be wonderful for the musician that s/he could fulfill her/his dream because the parents were in a position to help.

I will never be in a position to buy a house or provide any significant financial help to my children, but I will certainly try to help wherever I can. [/quote]

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