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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just had a kid. She's 4 months old and the most amazing thing that's ever happened to me. That said it suck. Sucks big time. Being pregnant is horrible. Labor is beyond the worst thing ever. Lack of sleep, no freedom, no time. Taking a shower is an achievement. Going to the bathroom is a luxury. I didn't originally want kids and I should have stuck with that. But that said its an amazing often wonderful experience. [/quote]
 I could have written this post, except that my DS is 6 months. He is amazing, and I love him- but I now know why I said I did not want kids. I can and will be an awesome mom for this little guy, but I can imagine my life without being a Mom. For me, it is not all encompassing.[/quote]

Your kids are way too young for you to have any perspective on this question. When my son was this age, I was miserable. At some point, they become little people and that's when any real payoff starts. You also get a lot of freedom back.[/quote]

I'm the one with the 4 month old. You know what you will NEVER get the freedom you had Pre-kids back. Yeah I will get back more freedom than I have now, but real freedom doesn't hit until they're 18.  And I think I have perspective. I know being a parent will be hard and there will be times of great joy, utter despair and everything in between. It's great seeing your kid grow as a person and being a part of making her who she is, and I truly love my daughter. But I would have been happy not having any kids at all.  The OP asked for others people's truths and that's what I'm giving her. Who are you to say oh you don't know what you're talking about. [/quote]

Seriously, you will laugh at this when your kid is 5-10-15. Your kid has not "grown as a person" yet. She's 4 months old. She is a living human yes but you have no idea what kind of person she is or will be. That aspect of who she is does not exist yet. She cannot make rational choices, form opinions, have distinct beliefs, or firm preferences. You are a parent. Not in question. You have not been one long enough to have a long-scope view of how it has been, whether it was worth it, how you could have done things differently. You obviously have every right to consider and answer the question but it's just sort of preposterous that you think you've got your perspective of "parenting" figured out when your only child is 4 months old. [/quote]

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