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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To me (and I am not your target audience I suspect, I'm an early 40 something married woman with kids) you come across as way too self-involved. The idea that your musical tastes, your vintage porsche, and your scotch drinking--excuse me, Laphroig, neat-- somehow defines you as a person---much less as someone 'odd' or out of step or unique--is amusing. The fact that you dropped in being on the high school football team (but yet apart from it) and that you don't really care about money (and yet--there's an inheritance) and that you happen to be oh so good looking is a bunch of faux modesty. The fact that you think these things somehow convey something of importance about you--and that you share nothing of your values, interests, life experiences--is also telling.

While a list of attributes on an anonymous message board surely cannot convey the  intricacies of a person, the story you construct about yourself sounds a hell of a lot like a well-crafted personal ad. Moreover, it's clear to me that you're not really worried that you're a weirdo. You are seeking out feedback, admiration, positive reinforcement, hoping to elicit exactly the responses you are mostly getting  (wow, such an interesting, deep, soulful type--why is he done?). But carefully constructed self-image in need of constant reinforcement, even from strangers, is a total turn-off. Dating someone like that is exhausting and pointless--there's no room for anyone else. [/quote]

+1  I am his target demographic as far as age goes.  And I don't give a damn what kind of music a guy listens to or scotch he drinks (or if he drinks scotch at all).  I know people who think the style of music they like defines them, and those people tend to be very superficial.   The fact that he makes 'low six figures" but doesn't think that's much is a humble brag.  It's like he's trying to be self-effacing.

I once dated a guy who liked to tell me about all of the interesting things he was into -- gourmet cooking and whatever and whatever.   I realized after a while that he would get short and borderline mean to me if I didn't ooh and ah about his unique hobbies.  I realized as well that he didn't care about what I liked.  He wasn't interested in learning about me.  He had a picture of the cool lifestyle, and he wanted me to fit into his little story of himself.   There was very little depth there.  I dumped him.

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