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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It has to be fake. I never call fake and actually get really pissed off by the overuse of the word "troll" on dcum, but people like this can't possibly exist. If it is true and you really are this delusional, get rid of him now now now now. Get rid of him yesterday. Can't possibly stress how fast you should run.[/quote]

This is really happening to me this very day. I am with him because I love him and enjoy spending time with him and we have similar interests and make each other laugh. My parents are still together, I don't know anyone divorced, I don't know what is fair and believed that the amount he is contributing (chores and financially) is more than it would be without him. [b]So my alternative is lose what is being contributed and someone I love all in the same day[/b]. [/quote]

[b]OP, what is being contributed is very little financially, and very little emotionally. [/b] By staying with him and letting the status quo continue, you're preventing yourself from finding someone who is really right for you.  This guy makes you laugh and you enjoy spending time with him.  But he has shown you time and time again, by his actions and his words, that he does not truly value you and is very much NOT with you through thick and thin.

It sounds like you went from a bad marriage to a bad new relationship. You need a reset.  Either the ground rules of your relationship need to change SIGNFICANTLY, or the relationship needs to end.  He is acting more like a parasite than a partner.  He's feeding off you but giving very, very little in return.  That is not love.[/quote]

I agree.  I would add that whatever he is contributing is not worth the huge emotional cost for you, OP.

This guy may make you laugh, but he also makes you feel angry and humiliated, whether or not you recognize that openly.  That is not love.[/quote]

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