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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do people who have just met you ever assume that you are a straight widower?

I was friendly with a gay couple where one partner died when their son was young, and the surviving partner sometimes had people ask him if he was divorced or if his wife had died.  (And I want to echo the PPs who have praised your reflective good humored attitude toward parenting, your daughter is lucky from the sounds of things.)[/quote]

When she was an infant people often asked me where her mama was. In my town I would always be polite and answer that I'd adopted her. They would then correct themselves to, "Oh, so where's her adopted mama?"  Now people just assume I'm divorced and babysitting my own daughter.

It has kept me up at night wondering what to teach her to say to people when they ask questions that is polite but protects her privacy. Recently we were in a bookstore and she went into the children's section. I was about 15 feet away in the adult section and could see her. Some well-meaning woman asked her, "Where's your mommy?" and she just looked at the woman a little confused and asked back, "Where's YOUR mommy?" It was funny but too rude for my comfort. I want to find the balance of her being respectful yet not having to share personal details of her life with strangers. [/quote]

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