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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP You sound bitter and angry. Get over yourself. You left her with the lovely choice of Russia and the armpits that you list, or doing it herself. State dept people are not suffering in their posts. They are so completely full of themselves, espcially when the wife is at home with the kids. BTDT.[/quote]

No, I did not leave her with the "lovely choice of Russia and the armpits."  At the last go around, she had the choice of Russia plus several other posts.  The problem is, at least as posts, are concerned she never knows what she wants other than "Western Europe."  Well, those are always oversubscribed, so you can do a prioritized ranking of positions by what you value in a post, i.e. spousal employment, schools, etc. She claims employment is her number 1 (schools is mine), but will rank a post with no employment opportunities for her if it is in "Western Europe."

I have all but given up on actually having a true joint decision on choosing posts with her.  In one of our prior cycles, she insisted I put Cairo and South Africa as my 1st and 3rd choices, even after I told her that I had been told by post management they had other candidates for the positions.  So, basically, we wasted two of our top three choices. Nairobi was our number 2.  When we did the list, before submitting it, I asked DW whether there was any place on this list of 8 posts where she could not see herself for 3 - 4 years.  If she said yes, I was going to take it off.  She said no.  When we received Nairobi, she announced she wouldn't go there.  I said you can't change the agreed upon rules after the fact.  She replied, "I can change whatever I want."

Actually, no you can't if you expect me to also play by the same rules.

Back to the problem at hand, what exactly does DW need that "nest egg" for?  In case I get blown off the face of the earth in some terrorist attack?  I have life insurance for that, and it is more than enough.  She needs to buck up and use the insurance money for what it was intended and not as her own little secret kitty.  I don't have one.  Neither should she.

I just love the man-hating element on DCUM.  You all must be real jewels of wives!

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I just love all the men on DCUM who cry about their wives not doing as well as their mommies. Seriously, dude, you lost me on that one. You had me squarely on your side, then you pulled the mommy card. Makes you look like a douche.[/quote]

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