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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband came to the 20 week ultrasound and that was it. I think it's weird to have your husband come to all of the appointments. [/quote]

I agree.  [/quote]

Oh who cares. You women are just as bad as the women who "think less of" husbands who don't come. What is it to you what anyone else does? How awful that you feel the need to call others "weird" for doing what works best for them.

I personally didn't need DH at all the appointments by any means but he wanted to come. I admit I felt a bit strange about it at first but it's his baby. He wanted to know everything about it. He was super interested in the process, read up on things, ordered books, and while no, "we" were not "pregnant" he was a partner in the process. Many of you are dismissing the well pregnancy visits as peeing in a cup and blood pressure but for us they were a chance to ask questions, hear the heartbeat and be assured that everything was okay.

Pregnancy can be something men feel left out of. They donate the sperm and then woman does the rest. So why not open up this part of it to him, if he's interested? While I sometimes felt awkward having my husband there for these things, the payoff was pretty great. He was committed and a genuine coparent from day one. Of course one doesn't need to attend prenatal visits to get to that point, but in our case, I didn't want to discourage his enthusiasm.

Those of you who think it's weird can shove off - I suspect you're not very nice people anyway. [/quote]

Yes but you sound like the type of person who judges others who don't share your sentiments about this.  Some of our husband's have more demanding jobs where they can't go to every appointment.  Thank goodness that's the case with mine - I wouldn't want him there when I am just peeing in a cup.  I can also relay information to him just fine.  [/quote]

PP, seriously, tell me exactly what in my post suggests that I judge someone who does not share my sentiments about this? Was it where I said "of course one doesn't need to attend prenatal visits to get to that point" or when I admitted that I sometimes felt awkward when he was there, or that I didn't "need" him there personally? Or was it just that you feel really extra defensive today?

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