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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  No, I am not the person you are thinking of, but you need to tell your dear friend that being "snapping, cruel, sarcastic and bitter" is not the way to show your DH that you "still love" him.

More to,the background of my story.  We have, with few exceptions, always lived overseas - Eastern Europe and the former Soviet states, Africa and Asia.  We actually met overseas.  When we first came to the U.S. - to DC - in 2001, I supported my DW through grad school. She did an internship at the UNDP, which I helped her to get, and in 2003 we moved to Africa, where she worked for USAID.  I too, at the time, worked for USAID in a fairly plum position.  However, because DW was not happy with the option of living and working only in the developing world, I switched careers to international business and we moved to Asia.

Within two weeks of arriving to the Asisn job, she tells me she has a job offer in DC and that I need to quit.  I said that I did not switch careers, burn my bridges at USAID and move the whole family across continents to turn around on a dime and go bsck to DC.  I told her if she thought the job was that important, she could go but I would stay.  In counseling, she painted this as I forced her to stay.  When our counselor told her that she made the decision to stay and that she needed to ken that decision, she walked out.

Fast forward to 2010.  We are living in NoVa while I commute to Baltimore 4 days a week and work from home one. I also do all the shuttling around for DD, volunteer for the GS, Little League, etc. DW tells me one Sunday that she is going to the gym. She disappears for hours.  At one point during the day, two police officers come to the door saying that they received a report that a child - my DD - is home alone.  I think this odd, as I have been with her all day.  When DW comes home, I relay this to her at which point she tells me she was arrested snd they came b/c they told her DD was home alone. Of course, I was pissed and I told her calmly she needed to get a lawyer, but that I was not going to pay for it.

I've never gotten the whole story of what happened from her, and I have my suspicions that she may have been having an affair that led to this.

Regarding her employment issues, I initially wrote here b/c I really do want her to be happy and to be able to help. But maybe I just need to let it all go.

She is turning DD against me - tells her I don't love her, won't really ever take care of her, etc.

I am sorry if I feel no compassion.  It has been sucked out of me.  [/quote]

You both sound CRAZY. [/quote]

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