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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP should have stayed home. I'll bet her brat ruined the service for the other worshippers nearby. [/quote]

Probably!   :mrgreen: [/quote]

Not the OP, but are you and the other PP the same people on here professing your welcoming nature of people at church?  I bet you are.  Ironic, huh?[/quote]

I'm the PP who said I feel like an interloper.  This is the kind of attitude I'm talking about!  I go to church sporadically, I will admit it - but when I do go, even on non-holidays, no one says "hi, welcome!  By the way, most people with toddlers sit in the annex" or "good morning!  may we join you?" or anything, i mean ANYTHING to make it less awkward.  Why must people be so cold?  I worry that it's something about me - like I look grouchy or scary or something -  and my DH has admitted to me that he feels the same.

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I am the OP.  I hear you.  Before we had children we always went out of our way to engage the couples with LO's.  We knew we would be them one day and the people muttering and rolling their eyes don't help.  It is hard to be in church with a child.  Even the best child will act up; an hour or more is a very long time for a child to sit still and be quiet in the best of circumstances and parents do try very hard to keep them in line.  It's a tension - do I take my child and risk bothering people or stay home and be derelict in bringing them up in the church as I vowed to do?  We choose to go and make the best of it (although we may be rethinking this on the major holidays until he's older and can deal with the crowds.)  I'm very sorry that you don't feel welcome wherever you are going.  Have you tried introducing yourselves to those around you?  I've found that people will reciprocate if you initiate.  Perhaps it's hard for you to do the initiating?  I've been that person too, and it's hard.   [/quote]

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