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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, why do you ask these horrible people for advice?

All they want to do is to crawl on top of a  wounded animal and try to pick at it until it dies.  when they sense blood they go in for the kill. I'm not sure if it makes them feel good or WHAT.  All I know, is that it scares me that they managed to get some sort of reproductive endocrinologist to get their old dusty eggs to produce a baby.

You are lonely and I get it.  This area is really really hard.  I feel very grateful to have grown up here and have family and friend roots. I know a lot of people just like you who feel so alone in this town. Just a suggestion, I have actually met some pretty cool people at the gym. I take an evening boot camp (Ive been doing this boot camp for a year now) and have met some like minded people who are full of energy and like to be active.[/quote]

As one of the PP that gave advice that's not it at all.  I take no joy in someone else's misery.  I'm hoping for OP to come back having tried some ideas and feeling better about herself.

I remember in my mid-twenties I swore everyone had these perfect families other than me and it wasn't until years later I realized dysfunction is more the norm. I also learned no one has a perfect life.  Everyone has dealt with something, you just don't know what that something is because people aren't going to put their business on the street like that.  Maybe having that realization made me feel less defensive about my situation and more appreciative of what was going well.  Also, while I wouldn't advice the OP to close ranks and not make an effort, clearly OP is married and he is part of her family.  If nothing else if I was so miserable about some outside situation ( say stressful work or a family without boundaries) I realized I had to get it together enough to appreciate what was going well like DH and kids or I could risk pushing them away in my misery about things I couldn't control and things that I could change but lacked the courage and willingness to do the hard work to change them (like standing up for myself in family situations or getting a better job)

Really wishing OP the best.  In our efforts to help, we may be picking at the wound, but I know for me I feel invested in helping solve the problem even though I know from experience OP has to decide what she is willing to change and sometimes it really does start with perspective.[/quote]

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