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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did I understand this correctly. The parents of an adopted child expect the parents of the birth mother to pay for their child’s college tuition and to also provide for the college tuition of their other children?
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No. The BIOLOGICAL GRANDPARENTS of the adopted child have set up a college education fund. They are not financially able to do it for the other children in the family who are not biologically related to them.

John and Suzy's (J&S) daughter gave up her child for adoption, let's call her Mary.

A couple named Jess and Jason have one biological child. They adopt Mary. Then they have another biological child. It is an open adoption and J&S visit the home frequently. All the children develop a relationship with them, although only Mary is biologically related to them.

The parents of all the children do not expect anything - they have NOT asked for anything from any of the grandparents. They intend to pay for the education needs of all their children.

But J&S decided to open a college education fund for Mary only - who is their biological grandchild. They cannot open one for the other two children in the family as they can't afford it. [/quote]

How is this an issue at all?  It was very kind and thoughtful of them.  Say thank you and be appreciative.  What did you think adoption looked like?  They should not be opening up college funds for all three kids.  This is really bizarre; you expect that.

My only issue with this and we decline money from the grandparents but that is because we are financially much better off and they struggle. I want to make sure they don't sacrifice thinking we need it when we don't.[/quote]

How is this an issue? Well, when you have 3 children who grow up considering a couple their collective grandparents and then those kids find out that only the bio grandchild/adoptee has a college fund do you not think that might cause some challenges? Or do you expect the other kids to just say, "Wow, wonderful that Mary has an extra $XXX for college from 'our' grandparents. So happy she won't have to get a part-time job to supplement like the other 2 of us must."[/quote]

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