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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not everything is about men versus women and what's a man's responsibility.

OP did not want her ILs there.  That's why they weren't invited.  Maybe her husband didn't want them either.  But she didn't say that.  She made perfectly clear that SHE took the decision not to invite them.

You can't pin this on the husband just because he's a man.[/quote]

Exactly. OP made the executive decision and gave her reasoning: dd didn't specifically ask for them, they live 4 hours away, they will see them next weekend. So, no invite was extended and then the payback came when they found out and were pissed. Maybe they would have come anyway, that should have been their decision. It would have cost nothing to invite them then you come out smelling like a rose b/c you tried to be inclusive and gracious.

It's a universal truth that's it always better to be invited than not even if you can't or won't be able to make it. Grown women get upset about these things when they get left out of the neighborhood get togethers, luncheons, birthday dinners, etc. This isn't an alien concept.[/quote]

It’s always the same grown women who get upset: the difficult ones that guilt people and make everything about them. Do people really want to be somewhere they’re not wanted but everyone’s grinning and bearing it? I don’t. If I’m not wanted, I’m not going.[/quote]

OP didn't say they weren't wanted she played mind reader and decided they wouldn't make the drive so didn't deserve an invite.[/quote]

Maybe. But people whose company is usually wanted don’t get offended like this.[/quote]

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