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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My advice is enjoy your children and encourage them to be who they are and do not even think about this right now.  Focus on other things.  [/quote]

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I never thought a second about college when my children in elementary school. Please put it out of your mind.

My DD is headed to one of her dream schools. [b]Encourage free play, reading, friendships, chores and family responsibilities, and being silly[/b]. [/quote]

Well said. I agree completely!

DD will be starting at a T10 in the fall.

TBH, she’s pretty much the same kid now at 18 that she was at 8: self-motivated, focused on many different interests, and very social. Just like back then, she has a huge interest in (and capacity for) staying busy and on the go, but she also still reads a lot for fun and relaxation.

Looking back, I feel like we mostly just followed her lead, trying to say “yes” whenever possible. For sure, we intentionally exposed her to tons of different things along the way, but nothing was ever forced. The choice was always hers re what to join/continue and what to skip/quit.

Bottom line: Kids are amazing. Please don’t worry yet about college. Do your very best to stay present for the moment you’re in right now (not as easy as it sounds), and if possible, find ways to bring some lightness, fun, downtime, and even humor/silliness into your family where possible.

FWIW, both DH and I are both serious people who went to T10 schools, though not the one DD chose, and it’s been incredible to put down our serious/driven/intense sides to be goofy and playful with our kids. Not what we expected, but they really do need that, and it turns out we do, too. Enjoy the ride!! [/quote]

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