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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have four kids between the ages of 3 and 11 and
I currently work part-time at a low key job, but I have done everything from working full time with kids in daycare, to a stressful but well-paying part-time to job, to not working at all, to my current set up.

When we were dating, my DH stated that he would not want me to SAH and I agreed. However, I also made it clear that I was not very career-oriented and wanted to focus on jobs with work/life balance instead of maximizing income. I worked full-time (at one flexible job and then at one stressful job) until I was pregnant with my third, when we decided it made sense for me to stay at home and eventually go to part time work.

Through the early years of the marriage, we lived a modest, frugal lifestyle in order to pay off student loans and save aggressively for retirement. We continue to lead a simpler life than we could if we were dual income. DH came around to supporting me staying home after we had kids and decided to have a larger than average family. I have no doubt he would have broken up with me if I had demanded that he guarantee that I could quit my job after having our first baby.

I have a lot of mom friends who currently stay at home or work very part time. The vast majority of them continued working full-time after having their first child in order to reach financial goals before quitting. Most of them also plan to go back to work when the kids are older due to the financial realities of our world today. [/quote]

+1 After having kid 3 was when some of the women I know scaled back or stopped working. At that point, the logistics are super difficult to make work with two people working full time, unless you're getting a lot of family or paid help. [/quote]

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