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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can you reduce your contribution to match your siblings' contributions? I think you said you were paying more? That might make me feel a bit better, regardless if I could afford the higher amount.

Fwiw, I agree with you, OP. My 87yo father is still living at home, and my spendthrift but broke sibling makes expensive unilateral decisions that end up costing my father and me money so I get where you're coming from. [/quote]

I suppose I could reduce, but it would annoy my sister.  None of we siblings is hurting for money (including my sister who has plenty), but I am the best off by comparison.  [/quote]

I think the upcoming change could be used as an opportunity to recalibrate your mom's needs and how much money is needed to fulfill those needs.  A simple spreadhseet accounting the homecare worker's hourly rate, expected hours, plus any medications, clothing/personal care items, and other things that might be needed at the nursing home that Medicaid won't cover.  I mean heck, you could even frame it as wanting to make sure you are all contributing enough.  If it turns out that the total monthly contributions are more than is needed to satisfy expected expenditures, the leftover money could be set aside in a savings account for your sister to use for any unexpected expenses that may come up, future funeral costs, etc.  Or you could decide to reduce your contribution.[/quote]

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