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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm on very good term with my MIL. She lives 15 minutes away and that comes with its pros and cons. Now that we have our own kids, I would love to spend mother's day at our house, but she still expects that we all go to her house on Sunday. My husband is conflict averse and does not want to "rock the boat."

I know, I'm a little petty and feel sad that the day isn't "about me." But I've been buying MIL her mother's day gift (my husband would never remember or care about it) for over ten years now, and now that I'm in the thick of raising young kids, I'm tired. I just want to stay in my own house that day, spend it with the kids, and maybe get a few hours to myself. I did tell DH this but somehow he sees this as a big disruption to "the way things have been" and is afraid his mom will take offense if we don't show up at her place to celebrate her on Sunday.

Those of you that have this living arrangement, what do you do? [/quote]

Frankly, if you were my daughter, I would knock some sense into you.  Someone is cooking you and your brood a meal and you just have to show up and stuff your mouth with food?  What is your issue?

When my DD got married, I told her that I will be damned if she has to accommodate me for Christmas, Thanksgiving, Mother's Day, Father's Day etc.  Her MIL is into all of this - more power to her.   She (the MIL) is a sweet lady and wants to do all of this.  As for myself - lets all go to a restaurant  a couple days before or after the "event" so that we all can chill out, order what we want to order and be relaxed.

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People like this PP are the worst. Think they are so low key, but turns out they don’t have much empathy or understanding.[/quote]

I am low key precisely because I cannot empathize with stupid women who just bring everyone down.  If I started empathizing with you, I would have your mental illness too. [/quote]

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