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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Reality is that a big chunk of women don’t play the long game on careers. The issue is entrenched long before kids happen. Having kids just highlights the issue, because by late twenties early thirties, it’s the exact time when you need to switch from the easy job hopping of your early career vs double down on a real career. A lot of women aren’t into that idea, and stepping back is a convenience for them at just the right time.

Many of these women will cite their fancy college degree and five years of work experience  for the rest of their life as proof of all their sacrificed. Because that’s a better look than the reality that they were never really on a track to much of substance.

FWIW this is not me or any of my best friends in life, who all have full careers in our fifties. But we all met in college and clearly gravitated to a certain kind of woman. There are enough women who -don’t- sacrifice their careers that it’s clearly not required and it is clearly a choice for the vast majority of women who do so sacrifice. But they don’t want to admit they took the path of less work because they wanted to. [/quote]

Want to cite any empirical evidence? The wage gap is only 8-10% pre-marriage.[/quote]

It's less about salaries and more about not playing the long game, making investments in your career, being strategic, putting in the hard work to create a valuable skill set. Young woman gets job in nonprofit admin. Young man gets entry level job in a corporate.  She jumps in different nonprofits, all jobs with soft skills. He jumps a couple times but on an upward trajectory, focusing on jobs that have higher salaries. The salaries aren't that different in their 20s.  But at 30, his resume is better placed to be a launchpad to start earning good cash through his 30s and 40s.

Basically, what is the fact pattern that leads all these women at age 30, with first baby and equivalent or better higher education than their husbands, to say: Oh, it just happened that he was in a position to make a lot more money than me long term.  That doesn't just happen randomly in a vacuum at age 30. It happens because of choices both have been making since college.  [/quote]

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