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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t understand why you can’t just stay at home and he can take his mom to brunch. Why is that not an option?

Why are you making such a big deal that he might take his mom to do something on Mother’s Day?[/quote]

Yes, why can’t the OP just agree that her husband’s plans are more important than her plans? It is Mother’s Day after all. What she wants should come last, right? [/quote]

DP Nobody is forcing OP to do anything. If DH wants his mom over, they can avoid OP Saturday night and go to brunch, or whatever.

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Good grief!  It’s Mother’s Day.  Consider the possibility that OP may not want her husband to avoid her.  Presumably she likes him around or she probably wouldn’t have married him.  Similarly, she probably wants to spend time with her kids, just without the responsibility and hassles for just one day.

Maybe instead of being exiled to a house or being avoided while MIL is celebrated, she’d like some cozy happy time to just enjoy her family.

Sure, she could go to a hotel and get room service, or stay home while everyone else goes out to eat, but maybe she’d rather her husband pop a tube of cinnamon rolls in the oven and they eat breakfast in front of the TV, take McDonalds to the local park and let play, or have a back yard picnic of PB&J.  Maybe she’d like to putter in the garden with the kids before it rains and would appreciate her husband helping with lifting and carrying.  Maybe she wants to sleep in and order a big lunch from her family’s  favorite restaurant as a treat - that nobody will want if they’ve just had a big brunch.

The point is that the day should be focused on celebrating her, rather than figuring how she can be out of the way of the celebration for MIL, who has already been celebrated that weekend.[/quote]

It is not Wedding Anniversary or Valentine's Day.  Her husband does not need to celebrate her motherhood or his partnership with her.  Her kids do.  She is a grown-ass woman.  She can order Chinese and watch netflix. [/quote]

+1 Leave her alone. The only possible issue here is the family with whom OP shares a house.

I would ask DH to take the family to MILs house. MIL needs to host.[/quote]

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