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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You seem extremely quick to judge, OP. Your husband is giving you what you want with minimal pushback. Come on. It's like you feel you have an obligation to whine about your husband every Mother's Day, or any time society imposes a made-up event on your family.
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There should be ZERO pushback with OP's request. Zero. [/quote]

I disagree, and I'm a woman with two kids. If a parent wants to spend an overnight away from home, for me that's a big deal. It means that somehow we have not made a home that can accommodate someone's desire for undisturbed peace and quiet. I understand that many young kids can't help being loud and demanding, but I happen to have very quiet and calm children, so this was never a problem for me.

[b]My point is that respectful pushback is always fine. The other adult is entitled to question a request, always. What matters is whether the discussion is calm and rational, and whether reasonable requests are accommodated.[/b] In this case, I think OP makes a reasonable request. But I would have questioned the need for a hotel overnight as well.

Her husband's decision to get a sitter for that evening is ridiculous, of course. It shows he just can't handle the kids he has, and THAT'S the part I find disappointing.

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This is nonsense. Don’t ask someone what they want as a gift and then “respectfully pushback”. They know what they want. Of course you’re not obligated to give it to them but don’t bother asking if you don’t intend to care. [/quote]

You are conflating “caring” and “giving people whatever they want.”[/quote]
No, I'm not.  No one wants to negotiate their Mother's Day Gift under the guise of "push back".  I'd seriously rather have nothing at all. 
But you're also a person who responds with "I happen to have very calm and quiet children" when answering a person who needs a break, so there's that. [/quote]

Nope, I'm another poster who disagrees with you.[/quote]
This is the classic tell you're the same poster  :lol: [/quote]

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