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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]October is the best birthday month.  No question of which grade you are in.  All of the advantages of being the oldest, without any stigma from red shirting.  [/quote]

Being on the older end is an advantage, but so many people redshirt that a late spring birthday is considered red shirt viable. So don’t get too caught up with that.

I personally wasn’t able to get through all of your wives requirements. I would rank each factor and put all of this into chat GPT with a prompt like “best month”. Ultimately your wife needs to be a little less psychotic about this. I have three kids and they were all born in warm months and two of three are on the older end and one is in the middle when it comes to birthdays. I’ve realized they are who they are. [/quote]

Being on the older end is not always an advantage. People are so simplistic about this. They imagine that having a kid on the older end of their cohort will mean they are smarter, more developed, "natural leaders". It's not that simple. I have seen a lot of redshirted kids who are on the small side, TBH (I think it's one of the reasons they were redshirted). Leadership tends to be a personality trait and being older might help bring it out in kids who already have it, but it won't create leadership qualities in a kid who is naturally more shy or a follower.

I have also encountered kids who are older and bigger and it makes them uncomfortable outliers. This is more likely to happen with girls, but it can be especially painful when puberty starts and they have to through it before any peers.

People idealize the advantages of an October baby or a redshirted kid but it doesn't "work" in a uniform, universal way. It's really kid dependent. I feel bad for kids who get those kinds of expectations put on them at the outset. Just let your kid be who they are going to be. A few months difference in their school cohort is not going to change their entire personality or body type. Let it go. Love your children. The thing you have the biggest control over when it comes to children is how you parent them and how you love them. Do that well and the rest will fall into place.[/quote]

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