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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You really can’t force a 17-year-old to do something, and I think that’s what a lot of people here are overlooking. When my daughter (now 27) was around 12–13, she went through a phase where she didn’t want to go to her dad’s house. She was starting to push boundaries (becoming a teen), and he wasn’t willing to tolerate the attitude, so there was a lot of conflict, during a period of time, and she didn’t want to visit him.

At that age, though, he still enforced the visits. I usually drove her but, If she refused to go, he’d show up, wait outside, and when she still wouldn’t come out, he’d come in and pick her up and take her to his car. This went on for like two months until she realized she wasn’t going to get out of it.

But by the time she was an older teen, it was different. There were times she didn’t want to go to either house, and we were more flexible and let her have a say. It’s just not the same trying to enforce something with a 17-year-old. If the dad isn’t even willing to communicate with his daughter, I’m not sure what the solution is.[/quote]

Of course you can.  You force your kids to do other things they don't want to all the time.  Its called parenting.  She probably knew you didn't want the visits and was trying to please you.

I force my kids to do all kinds of things they don't want to.  It's called parenting, try it.

So, if your kids don't want to go to school, bathe, eat, do schoolwork, etc. you are ok with it?  I have no issues enforcing rules and consequences with my teens as we have that relationship.  Clearly you don't.[/quote]

Dad can come and get her and force her then. Ridiculous.[/quote]

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