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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How would you handle this? DD is off to graduate school in the fall. She is moving to that town and we were planning on helping her with the cost of an apartment. Her boyfriend wants to move there too, and of course they’d want to share. Are we being forced to support the boyfriend here? He doesn’t have a lot of income. DD is acting oblivious to our point of view that we are not comfortable paying for a shared apartment. [/quote]

Oh hell no. Boyfriend needs to get a job and pay half the rent and if he can't he is a loser she shouldn't date.

And I would not want to support her living with him anyway. She's young and living with someone can cause relationship inertia. I think you should think about whether you want to support her living with him, even if he does pay rent.[/quote]

I was that "boyfriend," actually the girlfriend. We had started dating the year before graduation and boyfriend got into law school in a different city. We decided to move to that city and live together because we were not ready to get married yet and who wants to pay for separate apartments in an expensive university town? I had been applying for jobs in that city before the move. My boyfriend's mother told him they would not "support" me as well as him. They assumed that was my plan. It was not. They did not know me at all.  I started a job two weeks after the move and significantly saved them money by paying half of everything that they would have paid in full because he would not have shared a one bedroom with anyone else. We ended up getting married. I got my MBA and had a career. I never forgot that insult. [/quote]

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