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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids get a budget for school clothes: $500 for the fall, $200 for a spring top up.  They can spend it how they choose.  They also get an allowance and can work around the house to earn more.  What you daughter is actually asking for is more choice and independence.[/quote]

Me again.  I would not force my tween to wear things from target.[/quote]

Same. Target is for elementary school children. Not high schoolers. Lululemon is expensive. There’s a lot in between. Try Brandy Melville, it’s inexpensive and girls usually like it.

I would give a budget $500, and let her get what she wants. Upgrade the backpack.[/quote]
She's 13.  My 17 yr old sometimes gets clothes from Target. Some of their stuff is cute. As to quality, a 13 yr old will outgrow their clothes by next year. It doesn't need to be expensive quality.

I wouldn't upgrade the backpack. What would that teach her? That whining and being bratty gets you what you want.[/quote]

I am sorry your 17 year old wears Target.

Brandy Melville, for example, is not much more than Target, but cuter and what other 13 year olds wear.

As for bratty behavior, is she really bratty or just upset that she can’t wear what other girls are wearing. I sympathize with her. I agree that you don’t need to spend a lot of money. [/quote]
I am sorry you are a snob and a label whore.  My DD is beautiful, whatever she wears.  Thankfully, we don't live in a snobby area.  She does also have some BM clothes. IMO, it's just a label because the quality really isn't all that much better than some of the Target clothing. You're just paying for the name. That's what label whores do. People buy into it because it makes them feel better about themselves because they place value in superficial things.

I read a while ago about how art "experts" placed a high value on some painting when they were told it was done by some artist.  Only, it turned out that a 5 year old did it.  Those so called experts put a high value on it purely based on a label rather than quality.

We used to live in an area much wealthier than this area.  We moved out of there before the kids demanded brand name labels and expensive cars  like so many of the kids around that area got.[/quote]

Your use of “whore” to describe parents who get their kids popular clothing is a defense mechanism. If your 17 year old is happy with Target, wonderful. If you live in an area where all teens wears Target, more power to you. This is not the case most places and likely isn’t the case for OP.   There is a wide range of clothing available for OP’s child and most of it isn’t inexpensive. I don’t buy lululemon for my own child. But I will buy Brandy Melville, Pac Sun and similar brands because it’s what’s in trend. 13 year olds care about these things, for most families in the DMV they’re in-budget choices. [/quote]

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