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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a figure skater with 2 hockey player kids, this is a stupid post. You are literally comparing apples to oranges. Other than the fact that you have blades on your feet ( which are completely different ) the two spirts are completely different and attract completely different athletes.  It’s accurate to say that ice hockey now attracts more girls but little chance those athletes were ever going to figure skate.  [/quote]

I have a girl who does both.  She's been far the best skater on her co-ed hockey team. She's still young and they keep trying to recruit her to tryout for a travel team - hard no. She's our baby and we’re done with that circus. Figure skating is nice because you can pick and choose competitions. Same with golf. I am done traveling for team sports. [/quote]

Isn't it supposed to be about you daughter??? If she really wants to play travel hockey, or travel anything, shouldn't you support it. It's about your kid and not about you. Encouraging and supporting your child by spending your time and money is called parenting. It's nauseating hearing selfish parents bloviate on this message board endlessly about what they won't do for their DC even though they have the wherewithal to do so. Stop being so selfish, grow up, put your child's interest ahead of yours. They'll be out of the house and off to college before you know it.[/quote]

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Hard no on the "if your kid wants to do travel sports you must just smile and write the checks"

Why feed the money grab?[/quote]

So don't feed the "money grab" for something you can afford and YOUR CHILD wants to do and is committed to. Instead you will freely spend money on your [insert luxury brand car] because YOU want to, but sure overspending on something like that is certainly not a money grab. Right, ok, deprive your child of any personal interest they may desire UNLESS it aligns with YOUR interests.  That works out well if your child loves skiing in Vail as much as you do, but if your kid dreams of being a ballet dancer at Juilliard and you just think ballet is so boring then you can enjoy your distant relationship with YOUR CHILD once they graduate and move out for the rest of YOUR LIFE.

The point is people like you seem to only do what they want and must run a household that is militant in THEIR beliefs only. Children sometimes have different personalities and interest than their parents. DC is generally an affluent area and most people can afford to support at least a couple if their children's interest$ whether it be travel sports, the arts, travel, culinary arts, etc. Of course you can't do everything, but instead of only doing what you want sometimes it's good parenting to spend your time investing in what they want regardless of your interest.[/quote]

I think that if your future relationship with your young adults kids hinges on whether or not you allowed them to participate in expensive and time consuming travel sports, or the most expensive and time consuming ballet/figure skating/theatre/culinary arts (insert kid activity),  then there are [i]many many[/i] things wrong with your parent child dynamics, most of which have very little to do with what activity your kid does, how much money you spent on it, and whther or not they did travel sports.

Having kids who are heading off to college and life, I see far more resentment from kids who did all these expensive travel sports and activities, because the parents become more invested in the travel sport than the kids.  There is much more resentment due to parents pushing back, fighting against or constantly guilt tripping the kid into continuing with the expensive travel sport when the kid wants to quit or drop down in intensity and try other things, than resentment from kids who didn't do travel sports/high level dance competition/theater audition circuit/etc.

The parents often become more invested in the travel sport than the kid.  They often put too much constant pressure on the kid.  Or tgey decide the kid is "too talented" to quit and is going to get that college sports scholarship.  Often they start defining their relationship as being a "soccer family" or "we do baseball family" or "you are a theatre kid" because the parents have dumped soooo much money and time in the travel sport to the point that their own parent and social identity is tied to the travel sport, even after the kid's interest has waned.

Being on the back end of this stuff with young adult and teen kids, there is far more resentment from young adults over their parents being too immersed in the travel sports culture, than there are young adults severing family ties because their parents did not let them spend tens of thousands of dollars each year and every weekend of their childhood on travel sports.

Not to mention, any kid severing ties with their parents likely had many other parent and/or child issues that had zero to do with sports or any activity.[/quote]

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