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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks for all the feedback. They never went for therapy and most certainly don’t go now. They’ve told themselves all the tears it’s everyone else, not them— they are estranged from their relatives in their own families.

They just don’t get it, that they could be the problem in the room. They will not curb their behavior or keep their mouths shut as they believe they are really helping you in some way by calling out all the problems that you supposedly don’t see and that they’re just so intuitive and details and well, you should be grateful for their input. They think they’re doing you a favor by telling you that your neighborhood isn’t that great or your handyman did a bad job fixing the sink or they find some piece of news on Yahoo about your school district.

So yeah, if I do end up capitulating and helping them, I will just say I’m not doing it for them. I’m doing it for my sibling.[/quote]

That's terrible. The actress Natasha Lyonne talked about her family and how she thrived in her acting career once her mother was dead. She referred to her mother and others in her family as "untreated."

It's not your job to handle their untreated selves, and I hope you find peace.

One of my friends brings up all the bad stuff. If I was sick, for example, she will immediately ask me about my illness or my dying relative or my sick dog...it's always some awful and depressing topics she is bringing up. Recently, I said clearly two times that I did not want to talk about my health. I may have to do this many times before she understands.

She does not seem to have any idea that she starts off with the worst thing possible in your life to ask about. What about just asking someone, "What's going on with you?" And then that person can bring up the topic they want to talk about instead of having some horrible, depressing topic foisted upon them??

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