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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]New poster and I’ve only read the original post.
I am in a similar situation, my brother is away and I am the one caregiving. 
I think your brother feels resentment because he wants to be able to go on vacation and not put his life on hold for the old people who keep living though their quality of life is sh*t.
What helps me in this situation is that my brother takes on the financial aspect of this, and I get some money for caring for our parent. Not a lot, considering I have to buy them groceries, but it helps to alleviate the resentment. 
I am also a more mature person so I just ask him to take over at least the emotional side of it sometimes, to talk to them instead of me or take them somewhere when he visits (which only happens once a year btw). 
I think you should go there alone, don’t bring the rest of the family, and spend at least a week. Try talking to your brother about it.
Offer him something, idk, maybe he needs money? Or offer a respite once a year. I think you don’t understand how two old senile people can suck all life out of you :( [/quote]
OP added a bunch of abuse stuff after people didn’t agree with OP, so their whole premise has changed plus they’ve gotten super snippy.[/quote]

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