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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think this current elderly generation is going to shape how all of us plan for our own eventual demise.  I will never put my kids through this, I’ll move somewhere suitable while I’m still able to enjoy all the offerings those places charge for.  For people who really didn’t seem to want to be a burden earlier in their lives to be so selfish as they age is just mind boggling.

I know someone out there is going to call me an ungrateful jerk who hates their parents or something similar but I’m living in the front lines and have been for almost ten years.  I can feel what I feel about the situation.[/quote]

You're not going to do better. Everyone thinks they will. Everyone says they'll kill themselves. A friend's mom did this after her kids begged her not to. It created another host of problems and resentment.

I understand it's hard, I've been there. But, it's better to face the reality that people don't like change and having agency gives life purpose -- there are numerous studies showing this. Even just acknowledging this creates a shift in your mind. You also don't need to feel guilty about the consequences of your parents' actions.

Most people are just trying their best, including you and your parents. [/quote]

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