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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is with the threads recently of people sad they still have parents. [/quote]

I started one of the threads. People are living so long nowadays.
My mother died at 72 and it was a relief. My father who is way easier but still is too incompetent for modern life so requires a ton of handholding is planning to live to 100 and has no clue he is the only one looking forward to it. [/quote]

I'm with you. I don't get all these people who say they're enjoying it. Maybe their parents have already passed away, because nobody who's in the trenches can be having a jolly good time. Maybe women here like to serve? Have nothing to do? Have no career, interests or hobbies? Imagine their role to be support personnel to other family members? [/quote]

I’m one of the people with elderly parents and grateful to have them. They don’t live with me and that is not on the table. My parents feel strongly about that. But visiting them or helping them with things, or texting or calling is not something I have any issue with.  I have plenty of interests, hobbies, work, and my kids are young adults.

But I recognize and respect everything my parents sacrificed for me as a child and when our kids were young. So if I need to take them to an appointment or help them with something I make it happen. My DH fully supports this and is happy to help them too.

I’m sorry so many people didn’t have a great relationship with their parents. But I did and I’ll never feel bad that they are a top priority in my life. No, I don’t find joy in this stage and it’s hard to watch them age. But that doesn’t change the fact that I’ll be there for anything they need. [/quote]

It’s different when they live with you. [/quote]

+1.  It's a HUGE difference.  [/quote]

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