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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lots of replies from people who do not live with their parents here!  My mom lives with us, she's not that old yet, [b]and I could see it getting to this stage.[/b]  When she moved in my husband told her "you have a place to live for the rest of your life" and I was like ?!!!?!?!!?!?!

She gets a pension and still has her own home that she rents out, so if she ever needs more supported care we can sell the house to get her into a home.  But sometimes it's very annoying to have her underfoot and I think people who are calling OP ugly names need to realize it's easier to love a person from a distance.  My mom didn't annoy me at all when she lived 7 states away![/quote]
To what stage?  OP said her mother is healthy and helpful to her and her dh, both of whom have ailments. [/quote]

Sorry, just seeing this.  I meant that I could see my annoyance with having my mom constantly underfoot turning to resentment and eventually the level of resentment that OP is describing (hate is a very strong word but I think it's just the exhaustion + resentment talking).  My mom is relatively healthy and somewhat helpful.  But she's also 73, and I can't imagine that if I spent the next 20 years with her in my house I'd jump out of bed in the morning excited to see her.

Part of it is about never getting to be alone in my house, or to be alone with my husband and kids.  Think of that roommate from college who never went out and you always saw them every single time you opened the apartment door.  Now think about that, but for 20+ years.[/quote]

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