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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He is saying “we can live on less, we can move, etc” but it seems very impulsive and not very strategic. I get that he hates his job but this also feels unfair to me and our children. For whatever reason this job has made him have a mental breakdown of sorts and he is still trying to piece together himself after a really bad year last year.  [/quote]

Do you feel that it is unfair to him that you work part time for very little money while he endures a toxic job?

And the "for whatever reason" makes me think that you haven't really taken the time to try to understand what he's going through. Of course you want him to continue with this job -- you get to work part time at a "jobby" and live comfortably.[/quote]

I don’t feel it’s unfair to him because we agreed many years ago that I would stay home to take care of the children that we had and he would cover the finances. On the flipside, I would do all of the housework, cleaning, kids, schoolwork, planning, yard work, social obligations, holiday planning, taxes, finances, etc.. and there were times when my job was a lot harder than his. We had several children very close in age, and it sucked. I didn’t sleep for several years, and I never once asked him to get up in the night.
Our children are all still home with us and while they’re in school full-time, they still need us. He doesn’t see that. 
I am very sad that his job has been hard the last few years and that it has brought him down. I personally think he needs medication, but he will not try that. I also suggested therapy. When my life was hard, I did not turn into drinking, I tried to do what I needed to do to get things done in a positive manner.
I am happy to work more and try to make more money, but because I’ve been out of work for so long, and because my career path is not a lucrative one (think nurse or teacher), I could never make up the difference by getting a full-time job. [/quote]

You are so whiny!

Holiday planning? GMAFB. That's not a real task. Taxes? That's once a year. Why are you doing all the schoolwork?

And your children are in school all day? Seriously, you are making up reasons to need to not work, and your husband is telling you he's miserable. I don't know why you choose to have "several" (which, by the way, means at least 4?!?) kids and not sleep. Those were your choices but you're acting like you had no agency in those. Meanwhile, your husband is trying to change something over which he does have agency and you won't let him.

You need financial planning and counseling. Also, nurses can make a lot more than $30K.  :roll: [/quote]

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