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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lmao ok look I have another take. if her parents really cared about getting the money back for college, they would’ve documented it and made her sign it formally alongside a payment plan. At the same time, they probably would’ve agreed to pause the loan if she was a student again. I think it’s right that OP shouldn’t have to pay back this “loan” (which for all intents and purposes is really just a lesson in debt management), and the wife should just work it out with her parents without OP’s involvement or money.

I don’t see OP’s point about subsidizing though. You’re paying your own way for your own things on vacations. You have the option not to go. If the ILs complain you could be really blunt: we can’t currently afford it unless you pay for our flights and hotels.

For restaurants, you could lean in and force your FIL to itemize and not split 50/50 if you think it’s very unfair or lopsided. [/quote]

What do you think forcing someone to sign something like that does? Are they going to take her to court and sue her?[/quote]

DP. I mean, yes? If the parents expected to be paid back then everything should be done at an arms-length including the note. Leaving these things unclear is how people manipulate others. [/quote]

+1.  I really think OP needs to step back from the loan piece- just defelct to your wife, because whatever agreement there was is between the wife and her parents.  There's no formal debt that OP assumed by marriage.  She needs to stand up for herself and work it out on her own.

Just say no to some of the expensive trips and dinners- who cares if they get mad?  It's wild that people would drop so much money on luxuries but be so stingy with funding education.[/quote]

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