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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"And it will be a mistake to assume that spouse who does not want sex is low drive. They may just be tired of dealing with someone who is not meeting other non-sexual expectations and decide that using a vibrator is less drama."

Let's say this is true and we all agree. WTH does that person even want to remain married to someone who is not meeting other non-sexual expectations? The only reason (if kids are grown and flown) is to keep the financial spigot flowing. It sounds like most of these sex refusers are carrying tons of resentment and anger and they're merely tolerating their spouse and sticking around for reasons that have nothing to do with love and emotional partnership. Honor and cherish went out the window long ago. It's a fake marriage when you won't touch your spouse behind closed doors. So why not allow the spouse a hall pass? It costs you nothing since you clearly place zero value on your spouse's sexuality.

Just like adultery is grounds for someone not getting alimony in states like Virginia, maybe refusing to sleep with your spouse when there isn't a health problem should also bar you from getting a huge award from a judge when you divorce. It's usually the man who earns more and it's usually the wife who won't have sex. It really isn't fair that he's going to be stuck with years of paying alimony as the higher earner and lose half the assets if he divorces a woman who wants to live with him as if she were his sister and not his wife. Everyone saying that the spouse who doesn't like a sexless marriage should just divorce is forgetting that he is going to have his entire retirement plan turned upside down and that it's likely he's now too old (not enough working years left) to fully recover financially from this, especially if he has to plow money into alimony payments for the next several years. FWIW, I'm a woman.

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So you are concerned with reasons that have nothing to do with "love and emotional" partnership when sex is not being had, but you are not so concerned with it when sex is being had outside of the partnership. How do you think "love and emotional" partnership fare when one person is having sex outside the partnership.

Additionally, you are pretty much arguing that it is not okay for women to stay for financial reasons, but it is okay for men to not want to leave for financial reasons. . .. in this case both will be staying for financial reasons even though both have unmet needs. Sounds like a match made in heaven. Lol

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