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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wait- how can any working parent work and also not pay for before or after care??? School is only 7 hours and work is at least 8, plus a commute.

I think you need after care. I know you said it’s full, but what about martial arts?[/quote]
OP here. I still live a few blocks from their schools and WFH. I adjust my schedule to drop off/pick up. Ex will now need to be at work by 8am (kids start just before 9) and works until 4:30, but the kids get out just before 4.

I really don’t care if his GF takes them, that’s not the problem, and he wouldn’t be afraid to say that to me, but that’s not the fix, because he’s said that it’s “not her responsibility”. It’s like he doesn’t know what he’s going to do. I honestly think he thinks I’ll grab them and keep them until he can pick them up and is hoping I suggest this. I have no issue with this, but I agree it’s not my problem to solve. Also, at some point, the tardies pose an issue at school, and the main office (where the kids would sit and wait) closes at 4:30, and he wouldn’t be there by then. I don’t know that the school will differentiate “his” tardies from “my” tardies (there are none) when determining punishment (I believe they lose privileges.) [/quote] How old are your children? If you are only a few blocks from the school, can they walk?  Is this a public or private school?[/quote]
Seriously? How are they supposed to walk from their father’s house that’s 30 minutes away? I’m sure they walk when with OP. She’s talking about what they are with dad, 30 minutes away. [/quote]

dumbass, pp is suggesting he drop them off at her house and they walk to school an hour later.[/quote]

So the kids now have to get up 30 minutes earlier to accomodate their dad’s distance from their school, and then another 30, 60, or 120 or whatever minutes earlier to get to the mom’s house in time for him to drive all the way there and back to a job that starts so early he couldn’t get them there in the first place? Are they getting up at 4:30 am?

This is in no way in the best interests of the children. Maybe you could pull it off with a kindergartener who’s up early anyway and is willing to go to bed at 7 pm, but good luck convincing a tween they have to get up crazy early, drive 30 minutes, sit around and wait, and then walk to school. And if they are little, how can they be home alone in the morning if the mom is committed to going to work those mornings?

Dad can pay for a nanny and driver who can work out of both houses since this is all about accommodating his needs.[/quote]

Dad has the kids three school days.  Mom has two and works from home.  The BEST option is for the kids to go to school where dad lives.  [/quote]

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