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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH’s parents are MAGA. He said it’d be better if they were dead instead of losing them to the insanity. 
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I can't come to believe that certain old people can be "lost" to MAGA.   People are attracted or repulsed based on their pre-existing values.  My grandparents were kind and decent and, while they didn't live long enough to see MAGA, they would never had been taken by mocking disabled people or just plain gratuitous cruelty.  By contrast, my father bragged to us about bedding other women, so of course he is attracted to a man who grabs them by the p****y.  My mother had her 4 children on food stamps and still hates the poor, so of course she loves a billionaire who accepts a $400MM gift from an Arab state.  No one should be surprised that their family is MAGA.[/quote]

Exactly! My parents always had racist views and hate the poor.  No surprise there![/quote]

As a minority (Black), I've always been confused about people acting surprised by their parents' newfound MAGA allegiance and racist/homophobic/etc beliefs. Sincere question: were there really no signs until the last few years.  I can't imagine not being aware of my parents' uglier side for my entire life.  I'm not judging (I promise) but how can adult children  (or even teenagers)  not recognize this in their parents at an earlier stage? [/quote]

I can answer this! It used to be socially unacceptable to display racism. Many boomers from MC backgrounds striving to reach UMC status were very focused on appearances. Showing racism was considered lower class or blue collar, not professional. They also lived in white bubbles. There were no black neighbors or Asian or Hispanic neighbors. Only white people in the their kids schools, and country clubs. The professional and c-suite jobs were all held by white men. They laughed at The Archie Bunker show because he said what they thought but couldn’t say because they had arrived at a higher social class.

IMO whether their kids grew up to be racist had much more to do with whether they branched out into new areas either for college or work where they saw and interacted with black people on a daily basis and as professional or social equals than moral values from home. As the racism was hidden when the kids grew up it wasn’t as deeply ingrained but if the kids stayed in their white bubbles it’s just as likely as not that they would be swayed by racist rhetoric.[/quote]

Completely agree with you. I grew up in a wealthy (mostly white) suburb of a large Southern city. My parents (older boomers) were college graduates and worked for a large fortune 500 company that promoted women and people of color into managerial roles, even the 80s. It was seen as "low class" to use racist language. My husband's parents both come from a blue collar background in the northeast and seem (and are!) much more overtly racist than my parents. [/quote]

Pp doesn’t understand Archie Bunker. [/quote]

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