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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That is how some parents are. She doesn’t think parents apologize. In her mind, she’s thinking just what you are - why is my son so stubborn that he can’t just get over this? Gosh, he’s so sensitive and he and his wife make a big deal about everything. I can’t believe he’s willing to lose his mother over this.

Not agreeing with her! But this is what she’s thinking. My mother is similar and this is exactly what she thinks. [/quote]
OP’s MIL FAFO’d! It’s funny, but I’ll be here long after DH’s 70+ mother will. It makes me think of Taylor Swift’s Father Figure: “You made a deal with this devil, turns out my d***’s bigger!”[/quote]
This is such a weird response to me. Estrangement is sad. It’s sad that some people treat other family abusively and are unwilling/unable to stop. It’s sad that some people jump to estrangement over things that are manageable. Sometimes it’s necessary but you can’t really claim the high ground when you’re making gross statements like this.[/quote]

You have quite a narrow mind or you just believe platitudes over reality. Estrangement is sad for some but not sad for many other others. It’s OK that you feel sad but what you feel is not what everyone feels. Your perspective is similar to the one how a woman can’t be truly fulfilled without children. Too many people just accepted the platitude that not having kids is sad. It’s not! Many people are childless by choice and have very happy fulfilled lives. I’m sure you are shaking your head assuming it’s sad because you can only imagine within your own little bubble of constraint!,[/quote]

DP. To never experience any sadness over an estrangement, sad about not having the relationships you hoped for, seems narcissistic to me. Which is what we’re talking about here.

Your example about having kids isn’t remotely similar. It doesn’t end a relationship. I wouldn’t ever presume that someone went through a grief period when deciding about kids because I have a lot of childfree friends. We also have estrangement on both sides of our family.

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I’m the PP who thought the crude gleeful response was weird, and this is pretty similar to how I would have responded. [/quote]

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