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[quote=Anonymous]Apologies in advance if I'm posting what others have already said.

OP, try a different approach! I'd start with an apology, recognizing verbally that your approach has not been ideal and you're trying to do better. Drop the mindset that it's non-negotiable.

After an apology, open conversation. What really bothers her? Is there any sort of compromise that works (different church, youth mass, different pastor/priest, etc.). Maybe all of these will be a no go *for now*.

Stop forcing her to go with you, but have clear boundaries. You and husband will still go, she can stay at home if she pleases. Most world religions are pretty clear on this: our heart is clear and visible to God(s)...just going through the motions due to coercion, guilt, etc. is not a good thing.

Finally, adding to this last point...maybe at this stage of her life church attendance is not the best way to build spirituality/faith. Personally, I would focus on what your religion teaches you about service to others and make that a new family focus. You can grow in your faith by working together to serve others. Have her be the one who drives this activity, within set parameters: how often, where.

The most inspirational people who practice the same faith as me are the ones that focus their energies more on living their faith through action than through church service attendance. She just might need the right inspiration, and it doesn't sound like at the moment, that will be found in the walls of a church.

Good luck, OP![/quote]

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